4 Things on my heart:

The Bible has so much on these subjects that I am not touching the surface. Most people really don’t care what the Bible says. I’ve had people tell me "I know what the Bible says but God will forgive me."

1. Kindness
I want to teach you a song: Eph 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
We don’t have to tell everything we feel. We don't have to be so blunt. You may say, "well, it’s my personality."
Pr 29:11 ¶ A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
Pr 12:16 ¶ A fool's wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame.

I hear often, "Sometimes people think I am mad when I am not." This is a serious problem. I feel like it should be corrected. If people think you are mad then it is because you LOOK mad or SOUND mad. And I’d almost be willing to bet that you probably are quick-tempered or easily angered. Consider asking God to help your countenance.

Remember the story of Joseph? He seemingly had ever right to be unkind.
Ge 50:21 Now therefore fear ye not: I will nourish you, and your little ones. And he comforted them, and spake kindly unto them.

King Rehoboam wondered how to lead his people. He asked counsel of two groups. One was the old men and the other was the young. Here is the counsel of the old men.
2Ch 10:7 And they spake unto him, saying, If thou be kind to this people, and please them, and speak good words to them, they will be thy servants for ever.

When you must rebuke someone (even in a church situation) try doing what the Bible says: (And you don’t have to rebuke everyone about everything. Be selective with your rebukes. Why hurt people?)
Pr 15:1 ¶ A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Would you be considered a Proverbs 31 woman?
Pr 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

This should be applied to visitors. Every maturing Christian should get out of their seat and welcome visitors.

2. Building your house
I want to talk to you about the way a woman should treat her husband. I have had my feel of mean women. Where are these girls learning this hateful, meanness that spews from their mouths? Has sex won you the right to be hateful? Because you have something you can hold over your husband’s head you feel you can demand him to obey you? I agree, we have weak men who don’t know how to handle a mean woman....but it is time that we, as women learn to treat our husbands well!
Pr 14:1 ¶ Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Hands represent work. A foolish woman plucks down everything a man does. He can’t do anything right for you. Has your house increased?
Pr 9:13 ¶ A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing.
by implication, to be in great commotion or tumult, to rage, war, moan, clamor:--clamorous, concourse, cry aloud, be disquieted, loud, mourn, be moved, make a noise, rage, roar, sound, be troubled, make in tumult, tumultuous, be in an uproar.

Does it not bother you that God says you are a fool? Do you not care? If you do not care about this is it any wonder that your house is not a beautiful example of God’s grace and goodness? Is it not any wonder that your kids rebel?

Pr 31:10 ¶ Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
It saddens me that we have churches full of proud, arrogant women. No man is going to tell them what to do. Or they go from man to man hoping to find one that satisfies them....and they never will. Satisfaction comes from giving, loving, and sacrificing. Contentment is a conscious act. You must determine that you are going to build your husband into something wonderful.
Quit nagging.

3. Loyalty
How can people just walk out of a marriage or walk out of church and never come back. They are not loyal. This is a character trait that my husband and daughter are very strong in. My husband should have left me many times over. Everyone would have agreed with him in leaving me. But he was loyal. You can stab April in the back a hundred times and she may break fellowship but she never quits hurting over you. She always will seek ways to help you get right.
Pr 17:17 ¶ A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Mt 5:33 ¶ Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths:
De 23:23 That which is gone out of thy lips thou shalt keep and perform; even a freewill offering, according as thou hast vowed unto the LORD thy God, which thou hast promised with thy mouth. (It doesn’t say what you mean in your heart....it says what you said with your mouth!)
Nu 30:2 If a man vow a vow unto the LORD, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceedeth out of his mouth.

Now imagine with me....a kid. Their mother ask them to clean their room. They look at momma and say, "NO!" So their mother says, "You better get in their in clean your room now! I am your mother and you better obey me." And the kids says, "I don’t care what you say....I am NOT going to obey you!" Would you think that kids loves her mother? Of course not! Well, this is what you have done to God! You have said, "I don’t care what the Bible says....I am NOT going to work my marriage out."

What if that kids says, "I am a special circumstance....I just KNOW you will show me mercy." That parent is going to say, "You must obey me. You are NOT a special circumstance...you are a rebel." And how would you look at that kid? Would you trust that kid? Would you want to be around that kid? (Even if the sin is not toward you?)

I know people are going to disobey the word. They aren’t going to be loyal to God, church, family or anything. And how we should respond to such persons is a whole other lesson.

4. And the last thing is How to treat people who are unkind to you.

Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength.
How should we respond when someone rebukes you and they are unkind, blunt or just plain out of their realm of authority.

We should respond with love. And we must also be careful that we are not the ones who are rude in the first place. We should find our self-worth in how we treat others, not in how they treat us. We can't control how others treat us. But we can control how we treat others. So what should we do?
Mt 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.
12 Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.
Mt 5:7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
Mt 7:12 ¶ Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.